Blog Drama

Rainbow after a Storm

It's taken me a while to write this post.  I take time to process things and loads has been going on the past few weeks in my life which gives me less time to think things through.  Thank God I have this blog or I'd be nuts!  When things are going well and I have time, I tend to write out a bunch of easy blog posts that I keep on stand-bye for the crazy times.  It helped a lot when my mom got sick.  I don't write them out a month in advanced, but sometimes I'll write a post and hold onto it for a week or two until I need a break from blogging for a few days.  It helps to keep me sane but allows for me to still post everyday.  I ran out of those posts after the craziness that has hit my life over the past month or so.  So if I need a break now, I have to write fluff.  Which usually means I pull something out of my butt.

Last week, I was loosing my mind and I needed to write a post for the next day (I write better in the afternoon but like to put the post up in the morning.  I'm weird, I know).  So I noticed I had an Ancestry.com tab open on my browser and it was a stroke of inspiration.  I wrote about my adoptive family tree.  Easy post to write.  Didn't have a lot to do with adoption.  But I made a statement that I felt I didn't belong on it.  And I don't.  But whatever, no big deal.

So then another adoptee commented on how they felt comfortable on their adoptive parent's tree.  While we don't agree, the comment was respectful and showed that no two adoptees feel the same way.  I don't have any problem with comments like that.  In fact, I welcome them.  Bring it.  This adoptee was polite, non-inflammatory, and was simply stating their story as it related to mine.  In my mind, it was a great comment to leave on a blog.  Wonderful.

And then an Anonymous comment followed.  They clearly brought in drama from another blog.  So I started to internally debate what to do.  I could take down the offending comment, which had nothing to do with what I posted, just attacked the first commenter, or I could leave it up.  Then others started to respond to the Anonymous comment so I decided to leave it up.  Because it's proof that nastiness exists out there.  In the form of anonymous comments.  I don't particularly like them, but I get that some people would rather use them.  I've used them before on other blogs if I don't feel comfortable.  Sometimes I'll post on a first mother blog or an adoptive parent blog using just my name and not a URL because I know we don't agree 100% and I'm scared of the other commenters.  I've seen it happen to a lot of good bloggers.  So I've left it open on my blog.

I felt like there was a great discussion.  I wish I had been closer to a computer and had been able to comment more, but I was following along on my cell phone.  A few blog posts went up on other blogs that referenced mine and the discussion that followed.  Cool!  I love getting traffic from these awesome people!

And then Anonymous came back and started posting threats in regards to the other bloggers.  Anonymous posted stuff here that had NOTHING to do with the blog post.  It was in regards to something that another blogger said on a different blog.  Wrong place to complain.  So I deleted my first ever comment.  Because honestly, I don't like drama from other blogs coming over here.  If I blog about it, then fine.  But I hate it when the comments get nasty over other people's words, and not mine.  If I deserve it because of the original post, then fine.  But if I didn't post it, don't bring it here.

Every blog has it's own energy.  I love blogs with different energy than mine.  I read them and love them.  But I have my own energy here, and I don't like it when it's polluted by anonymous comments that bring other energies over here.

I've decided to keep the anonymous option open for now.  But I will shut it down if it gets to be a problem.  And by problem, I mean bringing nastiness here from other places that has NOTHING to do with the original post.

And thanks to my readers who don't post nasty comments about irrelevant stuff.  I really do appreciate you, even more now, and you help keep me going!