First and foremost, this blog is my story. Not all adoptees feel the same way I do. In fact, a large number don't. I've meet adoptees that don't ever feel the need to search for whatever reason. I'm not one of them seeing as I did search. If you are trying to find information about adoption from adoptees, this is a great place to hear one viewpoint. But be aware there are others out there who do feel differently.
There's a lot of debate out there over language and labels when it comes to anyone involved in an adoption triad. I use the language I use because I like it. I don't mean to hurt anyone but it's my blog so my language. I used to use the term "natural parents" so you'll find that language in a lot of older posts. I've now shifted to "first parents". I reserve the right to switch to any other term. When I speak to other people in real life, I use the term "birthparents" or "biological parents" because that's what the majority of people around me use and I want to be understood. So that term comes up from time to time. I don't want to offend people. That's not my intention. In adoption, there is no one term that doesn't offend anyone. So I'm sorry if you don't like my language choice. I really don't mean to offend anyone. That's not what I'm going for.
Being adopted has effected my entire life. I have some strong opinions about it and chances are those aren't going to change. I also tend to change my language depending on the day and how I'm feeling at the moment. It happens. Like other people, I have good days and bad days. Sometimes I vent. Sometimes I go off on tangents. And sometimes I need to leave adoption behind for a day or two and focus on other things. It happens. I'm just asking that people be respectful of that if possible.
I welcome comments, but please be respectful. Please keep comments to the topic at hand, like what I write about and the other comments. If there is drama on another blog, I'd like it to stay there unless I bring it here. In essence, don't rain on my parade over here. I'm all for debate. Don't get me wrong. But if Jill posts on her blog about rolling down the hill, please don't randomly comment here because you followed Jack over here when he commented on my most recent post and you think he pushed Jill. If you catch my drift. That's between Jack and Jill. Post on Jill or Jack's blog. It doesn't need to be posted here. I also have anonymous comments enabled because nearly all of my commenters have been respectful thus far. And it would be really really cool if you identified something about yourself. Even if it's just a letter, so it makes it easier to respond. Not required, but requested anyway. I just find it annoying trying to follow a thread of anons by their time stamps. It's a lot easier to know that "a" was the first anon and "b" was the second... don't you think?
Finally, I'm not a writer. This isn't really my thing. But I need a way to get my story out there, more for me than anyone else. Writing about it helps. It makes me feel better, and it makes me feel like I have a better grip on things. So please forgive spelling mistakes (I try not to), grammar mistakes, or wrong words here or there. I'm human.
I don't want this blog to just be a place for adoptees. I welcome input from first parents, adoptive parents, and potential adoptive parents. I'm doing my best to respect all of the different standpoints. That being said, I'm an adoptee. While I can respect what you have to say, I probably don't fully understand where you're coming from. I do my best, but again, I'm human.
If you are interested, I also blog at Lost Daughters. I also have a twitter account @IBMTitleHere if you'd like to follow. I'm still trying to figure out what to tweet about though...
Hope you enjoy!
