Triggering Questions

I'm starting my new job next week.  I know I'm going to be asked all those questions as people try to get to know you.  The triggering ones.  The kinds that make adoptees cringe.  I wouldn't have cringed two years ago, but since entering reunion those questions are getting harder to answer.

So you live with your parents?
Um, yes?  No?  Which ones?

How many siblings do you have?
Well, I have three.  But legally I only have one.  And biologically I have two.  Did I mention that the biological ones don't know about me?  Can you count siblings you've never met?

What does your dad do for a living?
Which one?  One works for a utility company.  He's also an electrician.  Yes, I know how to wire basic stuff because I've watched him do it my whole life.  And I used to be his "helper".  My other dad is a postal worker.  I know how the mail system works in theory.  I call him when I want to find out when a package is going to get to my house because he knows turn around time and how much mail needs to be sorted before it gets to my town.  They are not the same guy.

Where are your parents from?
Again, which ones?  One set is from Boston.  That's why I talk with an accent sometimes.  My other set is from another city from southern Massachusetts.  That's where I was born.  I've never been back.  I have a ton of family there I've never met.

In actuality, I'll probably answer: yes, one, electrician, and Boston.  It's how I used to answer.  Only now I feel like I'm not answering correctly.  I don't feel the need to get into my personal life with my coworkers, but these questions are going to make me uncomfortable.  It stinks because non-adopted people don't really have to deal with these triggering questions (though I'm sure first mothers and adoptive parents have their own sets of triggering questions).