I'm glad we're laughing about it. Because honestly? I'd rather laugh than cry. And I'm trying to remember that lately. I'm trying to choose to find the humor in situations and not take life so seriously. It's really really hard to do, but I'm making an honest effort.
We had a pretty serious conversation towards the end of our visit. Like, as hard as I was laughing earlier, I almost started crying. Glad I was able to hold it together! He said some really nice things, so things that completely caught me off guard, and a few things that were pretty heartbreaking. I'll save that part of the day for a private post. But ultimately, it was a great visit. I got to show him around my town, which was fun, we got to hang out without worrying about other people, and he even got me the best card.
My first mother never emailed. Or anything. I was expecting that. But I still hoped that I would be wrong. I hate being right about some things.
Now I don't have to worry about my birthday for a whole other year. And who knows what will happen a year from now? This time last year I had just started emailing my first father. And we're coming up on a year for the first phone conversation. A year of phone conversations once a week (mostly) this week... wow!
This time next year I might have another big year mark. We'll see. I have a feeling my first father and my first mother are about to battle it out. Wonder who will win? I have a pretty good idea. I hope I'm not right again...
Happy Belated Birthday! I'm glad that you had a great visit with him!
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Im so glad your visit with your father went well!! What a great birthday! Here's hoping your n Mom snaps out of it, and soon...sigh..
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday!! I was going to tell you the other day but must have gotten sidetracked.
ReplyDeleteI am so happy that your visit went well ~ here's to many more great visits!
I was gone for a couple of days but thought about your upcoming visit. From my perspective the haze is pretty normal. Write it down because if you are like me you won't remember details and wish you had.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear your visit went okay - nice to breathe again isn't it?
I'm glad you had a good day! It's so great when we find the humor in situations with people we care about. There's almost nothing better than a good belly laugh.
ReplyDeleteIf you're ever able to write about it, I'd be interested to know what your first father said about your first mother not mailing you a happy bday.
yay!!!! this sounds fantastic! i'm so glad you had a wonderful day. you deserve it :)
ReplyDeleteVery happy to hear that you had a good day with your first father. I really hope good things come from your talk.
ReplyDeleteThanks Sara, Linda, Susie, theadoptedones, Campbell, Klecker, and birthmothertalks! It was a nice visit and a fun birthday!
ReplyDeleteCampbell, I never told him about her not emailing. I may casually mention it in my email, but I didn't want to cause more issues. I wanted her to email on her own. As silly as that sounds. :-/ Oh well, there's always next year!
It doesn't sound silly at all. I totally get what you mean and now you've painted a picture that didn't even occur to me. I can't even imagine a scenario where my husband or I don't know what the other has done or will do for a child of ours birthday. I just assumed your first dad would know, without you telling him, what his wife was doing or not doing for your birthday.
ReplyDeleteYeah, it's defiantly a strange situation where they don't know. Maybe that will change soon. I hope.
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