Reunion or Relationship?

I've been meaning to write this one for DAYS now but kept forgetting about it. I've been reading a slew of new blogs lately. I found a few new ones, a few older one's I'd missed, and I've been trying to expand on the types of blogs I read (I've been reading blogs over on WP rather than just Blogger, and I've been trying to read more AP and first mother blogs as well). Anyway, I saw the same thing come up on not one, but two of the blogs in the archives. Huh. Interesting. Both of these blogs were talking about reunion. What exactly is reunion? Is it a one time event? Is it more than that? I figured I'd write about what reunion means to me.

I used reunion as a term that represents the state of my relationship with my first parents. I disagree with those who say it's a one time event. I understand where they are coming from. And I understand the need to classify anything after that initial meeting as a relationship, and it is a relationship of some sort. I get it, I really do. But I don't see my relationship with my first mother as just a "relationship". It's not normal. Neither is my relationship with my first father.

I think there are a lot of feelings that go along with searching and then reuniting with one's first family. Those feels have not gone away since I've met my first father. Some of them are less prevalent, but I have yet to meet my first mother. She's not ready yet, and I'm trying to be patient while she works some things out. I'm being respectful, I'm waiting, and I'm praying for the best. A girl can hope right? Anyway, I see my relationships with my first parents (because they are separate which is another post for another day) as being a continuation of reunion. It's been a year and a half and we're still getting to know each other. It's going to take a long long time until I feel like I'm moving past the whole "reunion" experience and get back to normal.

I also think that part of the reason I see it as a reunion and rather than a regular relationship, is because reunion makes it seem more like a special type of relationship. It's not something that most people have to deal with. It's special. It's somewhat unique. Most people have familial relationships. This isn't that because we will never be completely family. We might be sort of family, but I'll never share my past with these people, they did not come to my dance recitals, my graduations, nor did they coach my softball games or put Band-Aids on my skinned knees. Most people have romantic relationships. This is not one of those, although some adoptees do experience this (it's called GSA - or Genetic Sexual Attraction). Most have friendly relationships. We aren't just friends. We are connected deeper than most friends are. We share DNA. We share traits without even trying. I like and do some of the same things as people I've never met because DNA does matter. So it isn't a friendly relationship. Nor is it a hate relationship, which some people do have.

So I struggle as to where to place reunion. I struggle with where it all fits. It's not familial, romantic, friendly, or hateful, so I need some other way to classify it. Thus, it's a reunion relationship. It takes too long to describe a reunion relationship (try saying that ten times fast), so it's easier to just say I'm in reunion. Because that's what I consider myself to be in. I don't see reunion as a one time event. If that's the case, I have not reunited with my first mother. We haven't met, so how could we reunite? And if we didn't have a reunion, then what would you call our relationship?

Thoughts, disagreements, or other ideas?