Why I Blog

So I read an interesting blog post in an archive (don’t ask me how I got there, I was bored and rummaging around online the other day) about why adoptees blog. It was suggested that adult adoptees blog for not so good reasons and that there aren’t enough “happy adoptees” out there to balance it out. So this got me thinking about why I blog and how my blog could be perceived.

I write my blog mainly to tell my story. When I started to think about searching, I started to look online for stories of others who had gone before me. I was able to find some stories but I didn’t feel like there were enough blogs out there that just focused on telling the story of reunion. I felt like a lot of the blogs were mainly political, and I was more interested in the more personal stuff. So after a year of reunion, I decided that I wanted to toss my hat into the ring. I was going to blog about my story in hopes that by putting it out there, I would understand it better and maybe help someone else along the way.

Since I started, I guess I’ve become a bit more political than I’ve intended. It happens. Though at the core, I blog because I want to share my story. I want to let others know that they aren’t alone. I blog because it helps me. I’m sorry if you don’t agree with my opinions, but I try to keep things as neutral as I can and my feelings are the way that they are because this is my space. I don’t have an outlet in real life to discuss these things with. My friends aren’t adopted, my family doesn’t get it, and I don’t walk up to random strangers and talk about deeply personal stuff. I blog because I feel somewhat protected behind my computer. Silly, I know, but the people I have met here are fantastic and help me so much.

I love that I can post something and get opinions from all sorts of people. I posted when I was having a particularly hard time and I got responses from adoptees and natural/first mothers alike. I’ve even had Adoptive Parents post here as well, though sometimes I wish I had more. I like hearing different opinions. I do my best to listen to what the others have to say and to think about it. I haven’t had people be totally disrespectful to me yet, but I’m sure that day will come. And when it does, I’ll tackle that challenge too.

I support my fellow bloggers. I may not always agree 100%, but I’ve learned so much from all of the blogs that I follow, from all sides of adoption. I think there’s something to be said about different perspectives.