Sometimes it feels like my life is a movie and seeing as I'm really bad at coming up with titles, the title would be bad. This blog follows my journey through my personal adoption reunion.
Sometimes it feels like my life is a movie and seeing as I'm really bad at coming up with titles, the title would be bad. This blog follows my journey through my personal adoption reunion.
Hi... My daughter is my daughter. It's plain and simple. I love her just as much as my sons. In a wired sense sometimes I wonder if I love her more because I haven't had the day to day struggles over homework, bedtimes and such.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I don't feel like her Mom in all ways that Mom's should feel. There are a lot of reasons for feeling that way but mostly it's because she had a Mom and probably doesn't want two of them. I don't feel like it's okay or safe to say that I don't approve of this or that or do I feel entitled to make her tell me her college grades. I don't feel like I know her at a level that most Mom's know their children. So, maybe it's hard to have that connection because adoption breaks the ties that are meant to hold us together.
"She's my NATURAL mother, the mother that God gave me. And I'll love her forever, no matter what, connection on her end or not."
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way about my mother, her connection to me is tenuous at best. i will always love her and feel connected to her, but i gave up trying to have a mother daughter relationship with her a LONG time ago.
I think that's the heart of the problem. We are mother and daughter, but don't have the typical relationship. Society tells us what our relationship "should" be as a mother and daughter and we will probably never have that. And you know what? That's ok! It's ok to form a new type of relationship that works for us. That's my 2 cents anyway...
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