Who Will I Turn Into?

Someone posted a blog about turning into their mother a while back and it's something I've been thinking a lot about lately. It’s a common thought that women turn into their mothers. I’ve heard guys say it all the time, if you want to know how a woman turns out, look at their mother. I’ve heard my female friends say that the older they get, the more like their mother they become. Yet a fear of mine has always been: which mother will I turn into?

I have two mothers who have very real influences on me. My natural mother gave birth to me. We share DNA. She is my “nature” and will always have influence on me even though I’ve never met her. Those of you who have been following along know that she’s not always super put together. Everyone has their weaknesses and flaws, but my natural mother refuses to deal with the situation at hand and avoids the giant elephant in the room, the fact that she did give birth to me even if she does not want to admit it. For the record, she has some fantastic qualities, I just know I don’t know them all yet because she cut me off.

My adoptive mother is a great person. She is a fantastic mother to me and always has been. I had the type of mom who would take care of me when I was sick (she’s a nurse), bakes brownies when I come home on long weekends just because, and is thrilled to take a trip with me to do some mother-daughter bonding. However, she likes to ignore the obvious sometimes too (wait a minute…).

Do I become like the mother who gave birth to me (who has some pretty intense issues) or do I become like the mother who I have no genetic link to whatsoever? Which one will I become?

I already know that I share some characteristics with my natural mother. We are both sports fans, we sometimes struggle with self-esteem issues, and we both love to read. Its general I know but it’s sort of all I have to go off of right now. I worry about safety like my adoptive mother (“you wore a helmet right?”), I’m compassionate like her, and we tend to feel the same way about a lot of issues (my adoption is not one of them).  My adoptive mother is the person who I want to be like.  She is the best mother I could have hoped for and I feel so lucky to have her in my life.  However, no matter how hard I try, I'm never going to be like her the way I want to be.  We do have different personalities.

I guess only time will tell and it will be interesting to see which mother I turn out like. I have a feeling it will be a little bit of both. I just hope it’s the good parts of both of them. A girl can dream right?