Letters

I was referred to a great letter today here and I wanted to share it.

When I was trying to get in touch with my first mother, I decided that I would write a letter.  I was going to write a letter so great it was going to make her love me instantly and she would know right away that I was an amazing person that she would love to get to know and to be a part of my life.  I laugh at myself now.  Anyway, I wanted to do some research because that's what college students are trained to do.  Have a problem?  Research it!  You can learn anything by doing research in college, or so our professors would tell us.

So off I go on Google (our library had very slim pickings when it came to adoption literature) and I start searching for how to write a letter to a birthmother (yes I used that term back them).  That's when I discovered the wonderful "Dear Birthmother" letters that adoptive parents write to expectant mothers in hopes of stealing adopting their baby.  The whole thing left a sick taste in my mouth.

Seeing this letter, a letter written from an "Adoptable Baby" made me realize how lucky I am that I have found a way to deal with my adoption at what I consider to be a young age.  I think that all potential adoptive parents and adoptive parents should take the time to read this letter because it could be your child.  I won't speak for adoptees who aren't me (because we all have different opinions) and sure maybe your child won't feel this way.  But then again maybe they will.  Seems to me like you should be prepared for both options just in case...