I know that a lot of adoptees can’t stand you. They think that you have been drinking the Kool-Aid for too long and that you have used your influence to spread the “joys of adoption” myths for too long. I was never one of these people because I was in the fog. I bought into the whole “I’m so lucky to be adopted” story and I felt blessed that I was adopted. I thought it was extra special. I mean, everyone else had only two parents, but I had four parents who loved me. I felt loved.
Finding my natural parents challenged all of these ideas and I slowly started to come out of the fog. They weren’t poor, uneducated people. They weren’t self-sacrificing. My natural mother didn’t want me, period. She gave me up for her benefit, not mine. I started to re-watch some of your shows, and I’ve never felt so let down. Knowing how you spread around the “joys of adoption” myth made me feel like my hero was nothing more than a manipulative media mogul who was spreading the wrong message.
The big thing that everyone is talking about now is the fact that you have a sister who was given up for adoption. I hope that you learn from the experience. I was let down watching you refer to your mother as “my mother”, rather than “our mother”. I was let down watching your entire family treat Patricia like a replacement for your sister Pat. I’m hoping that you will learn from these mistakes and not repeat them. I’m hoping that you start to see how adoption really affects people.
Sincerely,
Jenn
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